“Anger is fuel. We feel it and we want to do something. Hit someone, break something, throw a fit, etc etc.
But we are “nice” people, and what we do with our anger is stuff it, deny it, bury it, lock it, hide it, lie about it, medicate it, muffle it, ignore it. We do everything but “listen” to it.
Anger is meant to be listened to. Anger is a voice, a shout, a plea, a demand. Anger is meant to be respected. Why? Because anger is a map. Anger shows us where our boundaries are. Anger show us where we want to go. It lets us see where we’ve been and let’s us know when we haven’t liked it. Anger points the way, not just the finger. Anger is a sign of health. Anger is meant to be acted upon. It is not meant to be acted out. Anger points the direction. We are meant to use anger as fuel to take the actions we need to move where our anger points us. With little
thought, we can usually translate the message that our anger is sending us. When we feel anger, we are often very angry that we feel anger. It tells us we can’t get away with our old life anymore. It tells us that old life is dying. It tells us we are being reborn, and birthing hurts. The hurt makes us angry. Anger is the firestorm that signals the death of our old life.
Anger is the fuel that propels us into our new one. Anger is a tool, not a master. Anger is meant to be tapped into and drawn upon. Used properly, anger is use-full. Anger is our friend. Not a nice friend. Not a gentle friend. But a very loyal freind. It will always tell us when we have been betrayed. It will always tell us when we have betrayed ourselves. It will always tell us that it is time to act in our own best interests. Anger is not the action itself. It is actions’s invitation.” – Julia Cameron